Reflection: Learning To Do It Alone

Bonjour everyone,

I was having this conversation with someone who had been a single mum herself and is married now.

I was telling her how I find it hard sometimes to be on my own.  Having to take responsibility for my daily life and decisions without anyone else to share things with.

It was nice to hear her say that when she became a single mum, she found it hard too because there was no one to share the heavy load with.

That empty feeling on the inside is there, sometimes constantly. Sometimes it can turn to fear and there are some days when I just do not want to make any decisions at all, because I am tired.

But God is good, and He always picks me up; if I take a decision and I make a mistake, God will intervene or send someone to help.

Learning to be alone is a hard thing.  However, it is important not to find someone just because there is a void you might be trying to fill.  This might lead to another disaster.

Having someone by your side should be a bonus, not a necessity.

So, my dear single mums, if like me, you feel very lonely and tired of doing things alone at times, do not worry, God will send you the right person, male or female.

Learning to do things alone, however hard and painful, made me more confident, resilient, and took away some of my fears.

I am sure it can be the same for all of us...

Au Revoir!

Travel: Kids and Streetdance

Bonjour everyone,

Well, the days have been very very busy!! 
Especially with the kids. Two of them love Streetdance and this time we travelled locally (only 5 minutes drive from home, thank God!) for a whole day of Streetdance competition.

This is a completely different world!


When you are inside the main hall and you see all the dancers giving their best, it becomes a great experience!

Sometimes parents are also invited to dance.  Yes I have tried it once, I came second, to a 90 year old granddad who was an amazing dancer!

I strongly believe, especially for our children, that it is so important to encourage activities that will enhance their confidence.

Let us not forget that some of us are raising our children without a dad and it can sometimes become too much.  Having good friends and teachers outside the home is important too and can help us in sharing some of the hard work.

There are times when those activities can be too costly.  In some cases, I have had to stop some of them.  However some schools also offer free activities for children in the school.  This way our children can also have a chance to build up good relationships out of the home environment.

Our children grow up so fast!  Sometimes I feel activities such as dancing, acting, singing can really make a difference. Well, at least for my children it has.

Financially it might be hard but I am pretty sure there are many things you can do for free for your children. I have done it, and if it worked for me, it could work for you. So, have a go and have a look!

Au Revoir!

Meet Up: Retreat Time!

Bonjour everyone,

It is that time of the year again when I get to go on a retreat with Super Working Mums, a group of Christian ladies who meet three times a year over a weekend for fellowship, prayer, worship, spa time and most of all ...ME time!

Being a single mum, does not mean that you do not need a break from time to time!  Actually, most single mums would benefit from attending a retreat or two throughout the year!

The only difficult part, I guess is the childcare.  I am lucky enough to have people who can look after my children on those occasions when I attend a retreat.
However, even spending the day away could be enough if spending the night is not an option.

I really believe spending time with other ladies, can help us share some of the burdens that we might not be able to share with anyone else.  After all, us single mums, do not always like to " bother" other people.

Well, the funny thing is that most of the ladies in the group are married, which to be honest bothered me at first.  However as time went by, God showed me that, as a single lady, being surrounded by married women allowed me to learn important things from them, in the " marriage" department!

These will definitely come in handy in the future! So yes, here again, I took a leap of faith by joining a group that was very different to my own situation!

Well, I had a good time, we had an award party and we danced, which was really cool! I had forgotten how much fun it was to dance in a room full of women! Ha ha ha!!!

Ladies, if you cannot go away for the weekend, try just for the day. Spend time with the girls, or join a group that empowers women etc... Try to do something that will uplift you and help you keep going! Good Luck!

Au Revoir!

Meet Up: The Birthday Treats Continue!

Bonjour everyone,

Welcome to my MEET UP WEEK!

Well, who said that birthdays have to last for just one day?
Since I have turned 40, I have been doing little things here and there with my family and friends.

Last week was another opportunity for me to eat out and this time again I went did it in style!

My friend took me to Sheesh restaurant in Chigwell near London.

I was wowed by the decor! It was amazing! Especially the Marilyn Monroe picture upstairs by the bar. I had one cocktail while waiting for our table to be ready.  There was a live band and the atmosphere was so chilled!

When we finally sat down, the magic happened! We ordered the food!!  The food was absolutely fantastic!

The main decor near the kitchen was so beautiful! Especially the huge mirror on the wall (I wonder how they got it up there!)

After dinner, I could not stop myself from taking a peek at the toilets and I was not disappointed, great style inside out (I even took a picture ! Ha ha ha)

I believe it is good to try something new, discover new places, new things, new food,etc...

For me, it allows me to stretch myself, but also it increases my knowledge on what is out there.

Now I know, I will be back for more!!!

Au Revoir!